According to the American Psychology Association (APA), many psychotherapists believe that pregnancy loss gives light to a very “unique” type of grief.
Janet Jaffe, a PhD in clinical psychology and co-founder of the Center for Reproductive Psychology in San Diego says that one of the biggest differences between pregnancy loss-related grief and other forms of grief is that losing a pregnancy is a loss of the future rather than the past, reports APA.
“As painful as it is to lose a loved one, you still have memories of that person. You can look at pictures and share stories,” she says. “With a pregnancy loss, you only have what’s in your imagination. The story you have in your head about that future child just vanishes,” she says.
During this time, many women also blame themselves for everything that happened and they experience a sense of shame and failure, says Karen Hall, a San Diego-based psychologist, as reported by APA.
That said, psychologists and psychotherapists believe that taking time to grieve, acknowledging emotions is important after the loss of a child.